10 Tips to Inspire Fun & Patience in A Long-Distance Relationship
Last week I shared some of the ups and downs of being long-distance with the one you love. Now that I am back in the thick of it, I’m reminded of all the little mantras and reminders that help me push through it. Your mindset plays a huge part in your outcomes in all aspects of life, relationships included. Below are some suggestions that help me stay patient in a long-distance relationship, and in turn remain positive.
Keep your “couple-goal” in mind.
As a team you two are pushing through to something. Is it to at least move to the same city/state? To get married and live happily ever after? Whatever it is that you two are both working towards, keep reminding one another. When you are working on something together you are building together, but it’ll also keep you focused on what’s most important.
Fully enjoy your quality time.
When you are together, make the effort to make the most of it. Do normal things and remember to appreciate it all (like waiting in line at the movies or just brushing your teeth together). Give your undivided attention.
Be honest, no matter what.
Even from far away, you two can pick up on a change in each others’ styles. Wondering what is wrong can swirl up all sorts of unnecessary drama, just talk about it. Or don’t. If all you need is a few hours alone, let your love know that.
Fight off the jealousy.
Little random things will set you off, things that would never bother you if you were right across town. Don’t let them eat at you. Acknowledge what ever it is, give it its moment, and then let it go.
Do whatever it is you two do to stay in touch. There’s a ridiculous number of ways to reach out from far away now, you have no excuse. With that said, this isn’t a reminder to annoy one another, but more a reminder to stay creative. You can text and email, yes, but how nice would it be to wake up to a special video or voice message? Send flowers or care packages. Stash a sweet surprise before you leave. Share what you can, when you can. Intimacy is not about proximity…it’s about connection.
Transparency and trust go hand-in-hand for far-away couples. Sometimes it’s as simple as sharing your schedule, so that you are both on the same page. The one time you decide to take a 24-hour social media break could be the worst day of your significant other’s life; and knowing why they can’t get a hold of you beforehand, is far better than afterwards.
Keep your eye on your prize.
Stay active and focused on your dreams as an individual. You have a life outside of your relationship, which is why you are staying put. When you want to distract yourself use what’s around you: career, family, school, friends, etc. These are the reason you are staying after all.
If you two want to be together, you will make it happen.
Be intentional about your time together.
This can’t hurt you, the relationship, or your significant other. I used to really struggle with this one. When I realized our time together was reaching the half-way mark, I would get into a pouty little funk at the fact that we were splitting again. Don’t let it get you down, or distract you from the time you two do have to share.
With all the planning and preparation it is still possible to find spontaneity, run with it and go with the flow when you two can.
Embrace the enemy!
Recognize the positives in this time you two are in. There are great aspects of being far apart, and a lot of them center around you as an individual. The two of you will also grow as a couple during this time, hone in on that.
Give it a chance.
Try to remain positive but remember, this is something that just requires an open mind. There are hundreds of forums, blogs, boards, and groups to join to find support and pull inspiration from.